tenshinoakuma | (no subject)

Is about three months considered to be really slow in RP relationships or something?

Because while I lol in chat about how slow we're taking things in the relationship, I can't help but wonder if people expect everything to happen within a month or something. Three months really isn't that long, imo, especially considering the setbacks we've had, and the fact that both characters are failing failures. And they're both guys, which is like an automatic +10 to miscommunication.

To be honest, I don't follow pairings in RPs because I feel a little pressured to rush into things watching them and hearing about them. Granted, many involve characters who aren't the cautious type, so yeah, rushed makes sense. But I find the jump to sex in RPs (and fic) a little unsettling when I browse around. Maybe it's just the ones I see and hear about (which tend to be the higher profile ones). But I feel kind of like, one moment I hear they're sorta going out-ish, and then the next thing I hear, they fucked and then I'm like wait what just happened there. Maybe I'm not paying enough attention to what's going on?

Come to think of it, what happened to the RP's first ship? I haven't heard much about it lately.

I dunno it kind of feels like sex is the ultimate goal for all romantic relationships in RP. Hell, I have no idea how sex would come up for our ship. I don't think it's really big on both sides' minds ICly anyway; they're too busy trying not to fail. Or get cockblocked. It's not like it'll move much faster anyway, even if you locked them in a closet together.

IDK there was meant to be more content and coherency, but I'm too whut right now.

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I've been thinking about this a lot, because my only game right now is survival horror, and part of me knows that relationships really don't have a place here, but also that they can start just as legitimately form out of stress and fear. I think the difference is that I have no intention of playing this relationship out in sex.

Even if both the other mun and I decide we want to do something to start a relationship, I doubt it'll progress to more than reassuring hand-holding, maybe a significant kiss or two, due to the setting. I kind of feel lucky, because I don't mind RPing sex but I've never played out such a relationship in a public game, as opposed to one-on-one RP, so I'd be nervous about it or if it would seem gratuitous to other people etc, and part of me would also really like the chance to be like, a role-model. "Look! You can have a couple that isn't having sex!"

/rambling?

I kind of feel lucky, because I don't mind RPing sex but I've never played out such a relationship in a public game, as opposed to one-on-one RP, so I'd be nervous about it or if it would seem gratuitous to other people etc

I feel the same way, but with the added fear that I might be falling into OOC territory, since I've never really RPed fandom before and am occasionally kind of 'ahhhhhhhhhhh am I doing it right?". I'll admit I like attention, but anything even resembling a relationship (which is practically expected to eventually result in sex) tends to attract a lot of attention. At least that's what I've seen.

And it kind of makes me nervous and jumpy, especially when people are like hurry up and screw each other, even though I know they're half(??) joking. Because I've seen some of the wank and drama that happens OOC because of characters in relationships and really don't want to get involved in those. I feel really lucky that the mun for the other half of the ship is just awesome in general and has the patience to RP a slow-moving relationship.

If you and the other mun end up starting a relationship between your characters, I wish you two the best of luck!

/more rambling?

I've always been ~~kinda~~ EDIT: super super super sensitive about non-canon pairings in fandom RP (generally being rushed, super self-gratuitous, ooc, etc.), so I wouldn't think taking it slow is a bad idea at all, especially given your retarded jesus. In practically all similar cases I would recommend slowing down actually (regardless of what stage the relationship is at), but I don't really know the Ness side of the relationship so whatev.

And yes, people do tend to abruptly jump at the chance for sexing ¯u¯a;; I don't feel it's a particularly good thing, and in any case you shouldn't feel pressured by how other people are playing since you're doing a pretty good job with Joshua yourself.

... You are talking about Joshua right? Or did you get Bidoof a boyfriend. In the latter case I will graciously bestow upon you my blessing to jump straight to the steamy pokemon sex logs ASAP.

Edited 2008-10-09 18:14 (UTC)

.................................. Okay the main reason why it took so long for me to get back to you was because of that last paragraph DK. I'M TALKING ABOUT JOSHUA DDD:

I'm just kind of wary about relationships in general (I fully intended to have Joshua single through the game which you just lost, btw orz), since so much ends up revolving around the relationship. Like, the characters become defined by the relationship, rather than the relationship defined by the characters. Or at least that's what I feel.

That, and I guess people don't really want to go through all the hassle of courtship and all the small hitches that happen along the way? I say small, because big ones tend to get played out, I think? IDK, ships feel empty to me once the characters have had sex or are having sex, since they almost always give me a 'now what do we do?' kind of feeling. Which is when the dramatic breakup comes in.

On the Ness side, he's willing to wait for Joshua to stop being so retarded, and the mun's awesome, so no pressure to rush from the other side o/

I'm not giving you a massive response. Well, hopefully I'm not.

Relationships in RPs depend, for me. If they don't have prior history with one another, I like taking forever. It's development. Development is amazing. ~~Some people don't seem to realize that, jeez.~~

It's fun to see the characters go through the roller coaster ride. And even when they do hook up, and all that shit, it's fun to cause more chaos for them. 8D

But Snow, I loev massive responses ):

I love watching development ♥ But for some reason, once a relationship reaches a certain point, my interest levels tend to drop. Or rather, when the character dynamics aren't interesting to me anymore, I stop paying attention? Maybe that's the reason for my disinterest in most romance o Aoa Sleepy response is sleepy |D

Also, Joshua is losing his battle with Ness' kitten for Ness' affections ; w;

Yeah I can understand that. I mean, rly. Sometimes the tension and awkward when getting into a relationship helps boost the interesting levels. But I still manage to stay hooked, b'aw.

I'm supposed to be asleep too ):

I think it's the incredible amounts of fail that do it for me xD Almost all the relationships I love reading have hueg amounts of it xD I think the ones that interest me most are those that manage to hit more than one emotional note in me. So I can ♥ the fluff, bawww at TRAGEDY etc. etc.Probably not by me, sadly ): I must find some other way to top you

W-well we only JUST finished their fail!date (http://community.livejournal.com/theskytides/119784.html), sooo |D

SLEEP IS FOR THE WEAK. /works on Nill app before grandma wakes up.

Mmm fail. I love fail. And the emotional notes. I think that's why I love the extreme contrast pairings (ie: YamaGoku). They fail constantly, epically, even, and then there's the fluff, tragedy, YELLING, etc. |D ♥

... hahahaha fail!date.