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tenshinoakuma) wrote2008-10-09 06:46 pm
tenshinoakuma) wrote2008-10-09 06:46 pm
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Is about three months considered to be really slow in RP relationships or something?
Because while I lol in chat about how slow we're taking things in the relationship, I can't help but wonder if people expect everything to happen within a month or something. Three months really isn't that long, imo, especially considering the setbacks we've had, and the fact that both characters are failing failures. And they're both guys, which is like an automatic +10 to miscommunication.
To be honest, I don't follow pairings in RPs because I feel a little pressured to rush into things watching them and hearing about them. Granted, many involve characters who aren't the cautious type, so yeah, rushed makes sense. But I find the jump to sex in RPs (and fic) a little unsettling when I browse around. Maybe it's just the ones I see and hear about (which tend to be the higher profile ones). But I feel kind of like, one moment I hear they're sorta going out-ish, and then the next thing I hear, they fucked and then I'm like wait what just happened there. Maybe I'm not paying enough attention to what's going on?
Come to think of it, what happened to the RP's first ship? I haven't heard much about it lately.
I dunno it kind of feels like sex is the ultimate goal for all romantic relationships in RP. Hell, I have no idea how sex would come up for our ship. I don't think it's really big on both sides' minds ICly anyway; they're too busy trying not to fail. Or get cockblocked. It's not like it'll move much faster anyway, even if you locked them in a closet together.
IDK there was meant to be more content and coherency, but I'm too whut right now.
Because while I lol in chat about how slow we're taking things in the relationship, I can't help but wonder if people expect everything to happen within a month or something. Three months really isn't that long, imo, especially considering the setbacks we've had, and the fact that both characters are failing failures. And they're both guys, which is like an automatic +10 to miscommunication.
To be honest, I don't follow pairings in RPs because I feel a little pressured to rush into things watching them and hearing about them. Granted, many involve characters who aren't the cautious type, so yeah, rushed makes sense. But I find the jump to sex in RPs (and fic) a little unsettling when I browse around. Maybe it's just the ones I see and hear about (which tend to be the higher profile ones). But I feel kind of like, one moment I hear they're sorta going out-ish, and then the next thing I hear, they fucked and then I'm like wait what just happened there. Maybe I'm not paying enough attention to what's going on?
Come to think of it, what happened to the RP's first ship? I haven't heard much about it lately.
I dunno it kind of feels like sex is the ultimate goal for all romantic relationships in RP. Hell, I have no idea how sex would come up for our ship. I don't think it's really big on both sides' minds ICly anyway; they're too busy trying not to fail. Or get cockblocked. It's not like it'll move much faster anyway, even if you locked them in a closet together.
IDK there was meant to be more content and coherency, but I'm too whut right now.
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I feel the same way, but with the added fear that I might be falling into OOC territory, since I've never really RPed fandom before and am occasionally kind of 'ahhhhhhhhhhh am I doing it right?". I'll admit I like attention, but anything even resembling a relationship (which is practically expected to eventually result in sex) tends to attract a lot of attention. At least that's what I've seen.
And it kind of makes me nervous and jumpy, especially when people are like hurry up and screw each other, even though I know they're half(??) joking. Because I've seen some of the wank and drama that happens OOC because of characters in relationships and really don't want to get involved in those. I feel really lucky that the mun for the other half of the ship is just awesome in general and has the patience to RP a slow-moving relationship.
If you and the other mun end up starting a relationship between your characters, I wish you two the best of luck!
/more rambling?