tenshinoakuma | (no subject)

Is about three months considered to be really slow in RP relationships or something?

Because while I lol in chat about how slow we're taking things in the relationship, I can't help but wonder if people expect everything to happen within a month or something. Three months really isn't that long, imo, especially considering the setbacks we've had, and the fact that both characters are failing failures. And they're both guys, which is like an automatic +10 to miscommunication.

To be honest, I don't follow pairings in RPs because I feel a little pressured to rush into things watching them and hearing about them. Granted, many involve characters who aren't the cautious type, so yeah, rushed makes sense. But I find the jump to sex in RPs (and fic) a little unsettling when I browse around. Maybe it's just the ones I see and hear about (which tend to be the higher profile ones). But I feel kind of like, one moment I hear they're sorta going out-ish, and then the next thing I hear, they fucked and then I'm like wait what just happened there. Maybe I'm not paying enough attention to what's going on?

Come to think of it, what happened to the RP's first ship? I haven't heard much about it lately.

I dunno it kind of feels like sex is the ultimate goal for all romantic relationships in RP. Hell, I have no idea how sex would come up for our ship. I don't think it's really big on both sides' minds ICly anyway; they're too busy trying not to fail. Or get cockblocked. It's not like it'll move much faster anyway, even if you locked them in a closet together.

IDK there was meant to be more content and coherency, but I'm too whut right now.

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I've always been ~~kinda~~ EDIT: super super super sensitive about non-canon pairings in fandom RP (generally being rushed, super self-gratuitous, ooc, etc.), so I wouldn't think taking it slow is a bad idea at all, especially given your retarded jesus. In practically all similar cases I would recommend slowing down actually (regardless of what stage the relationship is at), but I don't really know the Ness side of the relationship so whatev.

And yes, people do tend to abruptly jump at the chance for sexing ¯u¯a;; I don't feel it's a particularly good thing, and in any case you shouldn't feel pressured by how other people are playing since you're doing a pretty good job with Joshua yourself.

... You are talking about Joshua right? Or did you get Bidoof a boyfriend. In the latter case I will graciously bestow upon you my blessing to jump straight to the steamy pokemon sex logs ASAP.

Edited 2008-10-09 18:14 (UTC)

.................................. Okay the main reason why it took so long for me to get back to you was because of that last paragraph DK. I'M TALKING ABOUT JOSHUA DDD:

I'm just kind of wary about relationships in general (I fully intended to have Joshua single through the game which you just lost, btw orz), since so much ends up revolving around the relationship. Like, the characters become defined by the relationship, rather than the relationship defined by the characters. Or at least that's what I feel.

That, and I guess people don't really want to go through all the hassle of courtship and all the small hitches that happen along the way? I say small, because big ones tend to get played out, I think? IDK, ships feel empty to me once the characters have had sex or are having sex, since they almost always give me a 'now what do we do?' kind of feeling. Which is when the dramatic breakup comes in.

On the Ness side, he's willing to wait for Joshua to stop being so retarded, and the mun's awesome, so no pressure to rush from the other side o/